That when someone says they had no idea this was coming, no matter how much we might think they must have know something, the truth is they very likely had no idea this was coming.
Friends who take you to stupid, juvenile movies on your wedding anniversary are smart friends.
Laughter in the dark sounds foreign and feels good.
Sometimes 'survival mode' is ok. Case in point...
will smama on the phone to listing straight on the day all the truth came out:
WS: I'm about to restart the dvd for The Boy, THAT's some great parenting.
LS: I'm pretty sure when you look back on this day the number of videos The Boy watched is not going to be the first thing you think of.
It takes two to be in a relationship and only one to wreck it.
No more sensitive, quiet types.
No more church workers.
You REALLY learn who your friends are in situations like this. Because of the publicity/embarassment factor even folks who stuck with us through other trying times disappeared. One couple even left the church. Supposedly it was not related but if you were really my friend wouldn't you suck it up just for a month more so that the timing didn't look so bad.
You don't have to have ever met someone for them to be a real friend.
Two emotionally needy people should not have children. Please Lord, let them not have children.
If they do, and it's a girl, it is really going to hurt.
Toddlers are resilient.
At some point 'surreal' just isn't the right word any more. 'Alternate F'ing Universe' works but is a bit long and bulky to put across the front of a t-shirt.
Although I have always respected single moms, I will admit that when I heard someone was separating or divorcing and there were small children in the house I would think to myself, "C'mon, can't they do better than that?" I have now painfully learned that sometimes the answer is no, they can't.
Sometimes it is ok to not talk about it any more.