Thursday, January 3, 2008

Mixed Emotions

My mother-in-law died this morning.

Oh to see the shock on her face when 'those people' are safe and secure behind the pearly gates and she has to have a long, long, LONG talk on a bench outside with Those Who Are In Charge before she can even get in line.

(I know that comment is not theologically sound, just go with it.)

24 comments:

cheesehead said...

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Listing Straight said...

I would say, "Don't pull a quad dancing on the grave," but I know this is a huge mix of sad and angry and frustration as well as the relief...

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Mark Smith said...

Don't forget to grieve. You've lost something - even if it's just animosity. It still makes a hole.

((ws))

reverendmother said...

Oh man. Wow.

Jane Ellen+ said...

*[ws]*

Drew said...

Perfectly sound theology!

Matt 22:2-14

God is on said bench telling her, "Put on the damn coat and stop arguing about it."

peripateticpolarbear said...

wow. you thought she'd outlive you all. Prayers for the boy who lost a grandma.

will smama said...

Yes and prayers of thanksgiving that The Boy never will know her the way we all did. His memories - if he has any - will remain innocent and toddler-like.

Songbird said...

I'm sorry for the pain all around.

Katharine O'Moore-Klopf said...

That's hard, WS. But rest assured that your MIL will have company once she gets in line: My mother's been on that line since 2000 and still hasn't learned that she can't order God around.

Sue said...

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St. Casserole said...

an arm hit thingie.

DogBlogger said...

Whoa.

What everybody in front of me said.

revrosa said...

]* wow! just from the bits and pieces you've shared, there is a sense of relief for you and the boy. There is such blessing that the next part of the journey in co-parenting your son does not have to include negotiating around MIL's agenda. Bless you...

Kathryn said...

Not sure what to say really - on a good day, under ideal circumstances, it can be a tricky relationship...here, - well.
Love and shoulder chuck wotsits xx

Quotidian Grace said...

Mark's advice is very sound.

Been there, done that, not with a mother-in-law, but another relative.

Towanda said...

Peace.

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Mary Beth said...

Holy freakin' smoke.

Feeling gratitude here, in the vein of Reverenda Rosa. I had a grandmother like that.

*] to WS, Boy, etc.

LadyBurg said...

Wow! Had no idea this would happen so soon. Hum....

I feel a little guilty that I'm feeling ok about it....not sad at all.

mid-life rookie said...

Prayers for you, the boy. Prayers also for all who grieve her loss, even if it is the loss of opportunity for reconciliation that might never have come but could always be hoped for.

Magdalene6127 said...

Prayers. Someday I hope we meet, because some of the parallels are really astounding.

(((WS and The Boy)))

God_Guurrlll said...

Prayers, hugs, love.

Peace

Rev Scott said...

Catching up after a family visit that left little time to blog or check in with friends. {the boy}

Have you read the short story "Revelation" by Flannery O'Connor? I don't know your late MIL or the backstory at all, but your post made me think immediately of that story. Check it out.

RevHRod said...

Sigh... You are in my thoughts and prayers.