Thursday, January 31, 2008
Our friends were stationed in Hawaii while we were in seminary. So what does any highly budgeted, cash-strapped couple do? You realize that free lodging in paradise is reason enough to suck it up for the airfare and you go to Hawaii! It was amazing. We had so much fun from hiking to eating to driving all around every nook and cranny of Oahu and Kauai.
I remember even the air smelled sweet and it seemed like there was a rainbow around every corner.
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
On our honeymoon the only money I brought was some cash one of the bridesmaids had given me to reimburse for her dress. He was stunned that I had not brought any of my own money. I just did what I always saw my parents do - my Dad paid. He was so flustered by this that we ended up buying only one souvenir from our honeymoon and we SPLIT the cost. We used to both crack up at this story.
I still tell this story when I am doing premarital counseling and bringing up the MAIN THING couples need to negotiate how they are going to handle - money.
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
As I mentioned before we met in September of 1995. We were engaged February 1, 1996 and married at the end of August that year. That's right. We were married before we had known each other a year. I used to say, "Hey, when you know you know."
Actually, I still stand by that.
Monday, January 28, 2008
We met in September of 1995 and my beloved grandmother passed in January of 1996. We spent Christmas with my grandparents and one of the things he gave me was a stuffed puppy dog. I was holding the dog and my grandmother said, "Well, isn't he a cutie... and that dog he gave you is cute too."
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Our first date was my great Uncle's funeral down in Miami. Seriously. We had talked on the phone quiet a few times and exchanged letters and then when my great Uncle passed and the funeral was going to be relatively close to where he lived (and one of those funerals that was going to be more family reunion at the yacht club than funeral) I asked permission and he was invited to come too. I still remember those funeral/wedding relatives asking us, "Soooo, how long have you two known each other?"
And us sheepishly looking at each other and saying, "Oh, a good three weeks now."
Saturday, January 26, 2008
Still edible and the evening was overall a success.
My other problem is that through the holidays I had good coffee. I buy good coffee when guests are coming into town and then for Christmas I was given a coffee maker and so of course those who knew this was headed my way gave me more good coffee. And now it is gone. And I am 'stuck' with large kegs of 1/2 decaf Major Brand coffee and there are NO amount of scoops I can put in to make it stronger and better.
Sigh... Fair trade store here I come. I have become one of those drinkers that can tell what I drink and this. ain't. good.
On another note, sorry about the lack of posts this past week. It was a busy one. I will try to do better next week; a week which just may include me trading in one label for another. Have a great weekend!
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Yesterday though I did some detail work on my very busy week/month/mid-life crisis with some help from my cruise director, Ladyburg. We just played for the afternoon and it was so great and so needed and so healing. It is amazing how far a relaxed lunch, pedis and a great movie (Juno) will take you.
Yeah for Ladyburg who has family coming in TODAY and has a schedule that makes mine look like child's play (well except for the inflicted mid-life crisis, that ride is all on my own).
Sunday, January 20, 2008
This year I just didn't want to be more focused on football than I was on my son. Were the games on in my house as background? Certainly. But they were never the main focus of my attention. Well, at least not until the second half of last week's game when I let my entire downstairs be trashed all in the name of focusing all of my energies into beating the Cowboys (Umm yes, part of me actually does think I had something to do with it, why?).
Friday, January 18, 2008
What book have you read in the last six months that has really stayed with you? Why?
Definitely Animal, Vegetable, Miracle written by Barbara Kingsolver and family. I am absolutely more conscientious about where my food comes from. Now, am I doing anything about it? Well, in a word: no. BUT, I have big plans and in my defense I am putting a lot of energy into just keeping it together over here and it is hard to begin your focus on eating local produce in mid-January.
One thing I have done, is made pizza from scratch - VERY fun - and I have plans to do that again very soon.
What is one of your favorite childhood books?
The Little House by Virginia Lee Burton: Thanks to my son I have had new reason to read this great book although he does not stand for me just sitting there and losing myself in the pictures... that day will come, I hope. He is really more into Katy the Snowplow and Mary Anne the Steam Shovel (and her buddy Mike Mulligan, of course).
Do you have a favorite book of the Bible? Do tell!
What is one book you could read again and again?
Is there a book you would suggest for Lenten reading? What is it and why?
Well, except for the fact that I heard he is recently touring his book again in a similar pattern as the Purpose Driven hubbub - and for some reason that bothers me - I would say Richard Foster's Celebration of Discipline.
Thursday, January 17, 2008
You grew up in the church from baptism to youth groups. He did too.
You hung out with friends in high school, never dated. He did too.
You only dated if it was serious. He did too.
You worked with children and youth in the church - both volunteer and paid. He did too.
Eventually he asks and you say yes.
You stood in front of over 500 people from two different church families to make a committment. He did too.
You went to Hawaii, Maine, visited family, got mad, got happy and lived life. He did too.
You experienced the ultimate low. He did too.
You experienced the ultimate high. He did too.
Soon, you will sign the divorce papers.
He will too.
Monday, January 14, 2008
Now as this time reminds us of God’s grace, we bring to the Lord all the broken pieces of our lives and ask our loving Parent to continue to put them together and make us whole.
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Finally, he was clearly exhausted too and so once I again I brought him to his room for a nap.
"Please Mommy get in car bed?"
I figured I might as well because at that point any mattress would do. It turned out to be a decision well made when after laying there for about a minute or two he handed me one of the three of his most prized possessions and said, "Mommy want Pooh blankie?"
Truly I have never been more honored.
And yes, we both napped.
Friday, January 11, 2008
Nor shall the latter be followed by introductory Deacon's meeting after worship.
TDH has returned from southern phallic state from a one and a half hour service for the deceased. He confirmed that it was who we had been told in the box (I just wanted to be sure).
I once again participated in the exercise of humiliation known as me asking TDH if he wanted to come home and work on our marriage. He declined. This will hopefully be the last exercise of this sort as things should be final in a few weeks. And really there are a few positives:
a) I have noted that each time I participate in this exercise of humiliation (average about once a month when the guilt/reflection on what committment really means gets to me) anyway, every time I participate the sting to the face of rejection seems to be less and less.
b) It is further confirmation that there really is nothing more I can do.
c) I can through choosing the right channels ("leaks to the press") assure my congregation that there is nothing this particular clergy person can do to stop the divorce... even if she IS clergy.
I am grateful that The Boy woke up this morning - early - and immediately went downstairs to play with his train table and retrieved his own juice (that I had made last night) from the refrigerator.
And I am grateful that just as I was lamenting how my almost 3 year old is going on 15 with all of that independence he came upstairs and got into the shower with me because he was afraid I was playing with his boat. For the record, I was not.
If someone could write my communion meditation for Sunday, that would be great!
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
And we’ve got a lot to do
And we haven’t got a minute
To explain it all to you
For on Sunday Monday Tuesday
There are people we must see
And on Wednesday Thursday Friday
We’re as busy as can be
With our most important meetings
And our most important calls
And we have to do so many things
And post them on the walls…
We have to hurry far away
And then we hurry near
And we have to hurry everywhere
And be both there and here
And we have to send out messages
\By e-mail, phone, and fax
And we’re talking every minute
And we really can’t relax
And we think there is a reason
To be running neck-and-neck
And it must be quite important
But we don’t have time to check.
Lyrics by Sandra Boynton
Friday, January 4, 2008
1. Do you make New Year resolutions?
Yes... although they are more 'hopes' or 'goals'.
2. Is this something you take seriously, or is it a bit of fun?
Somewhat serious, with a major dash of fun. There is no flogging when the hope/goal is not accomplished.
3. Share one goal for 2008.
To hug The Boy 1,000,000 times.
4. Money is no barrier, share one wild/ impossible dream for 2008.
Live in Hawaii.
5. Someone wants to publish a story of your year in 2008, what will the title of that book be?
Thursday, January 3, 2008
And so I read Barbara Kingsolver's Animal,Vegetable, Miracle. Well, I read most of it since it was on reserve at the libary which means no extending past the two weeks and the two weeks I had it was right over Christmas. She lost me deep into the chapter about asparagus and I had to skip January and February.
But she did inspire me and so this Friday - tomorrow! - friends are coming over and I am making my first attempt at pizza from scratch.
Of course the main theme of the book is the positives of eating locally; one of the biggest being that by eating locally we reduce the amount of fossil fuels used to bring our food to us. So although I am sure she appreciates any kind of small steps that may be made towards eating healthier, slower and surrounded by friends and family I am not so sure she would find the positives in me buying the yeast needed from Walmart... or that it was shipped from the other side of the nation.
I promise to hit the local Farmer's Market when it opens.
Oh to see the shock on her face when 'those people' are safe and secure behind the pearly gates and she has to have a long, long, LONG talk on a bench outside with Those Who Are In Charge before she can even get in line.
(I know that comment is not theologically sound, just go with it.)
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
2008 started off well enough as a couple that has been on the top of my prayer list for a couple of years now as they journey through infertility informed me they are pregnant. It's still early and I am still praying but that was some sweet, sweet news.
Tomorrow it's back to work and it is going to be intense as ALL of the things I put off in order to survive Advent/Christmas are just waiting there to POUNCE. Officer ordination and installation this Sunday? Sure, no problem! Session retreat next weekend - OKAY!
I've set some reasonable professional and personal goals for 2008 - nothing too crazy but none of them are a given either. One of them is to lighten up this blog a bit... nothing fraudulent; just a reminder to continue to be blessed by the lighter side of life.
So.... my friend traveling these past few days texted me to say she had landed at her connection airport and hoped there was a Starbuck's. This reminded me that as I left from my post-Thanksgiving hide-a-way I made it through security and found a Starbuck's that had my seasonal fave - peppermint mocha - and thought myself to be way too cool as I made it on the plane with my mocha, iPod and my lappie. I looked good - young, relaxed and professional. And I could tell others thought so too as they were looking at me as if I had something to show them.
And when I made it to a bathroom at my own connecting airport I realized I did have something to show them - a HUGE brown spot of peppermint mocha that had spilled and dried right on the very tip of my nose.
Look at me now!