Tuesday, January 26, 2010

If I Were a Rich Man

It's been awhile since my last post. Truth be told I have been on a sprint through December learning a new congregation's holiday rhythm all while my family played its own version of the Blues.

We're doing ok. My sister said it best when she said she understood that the nursing home version of Dad had died, but she keeps looking around for the 'Real Dad' to show back up.

My father and I bonded many, many years ago when he would take me to Brooklyn on Saturday mornings with him to help out my uncle. We blared Fiddler on the Roof all the way there and all the way back. As a first generation American, my father had lived in a poor Jewish section of Brooklyn with his immigrant parents. Blue collar all of his life, he related to Tevye's lament: 'If I were a rich man'.

If you have heard the song, then you can imagine a teenage daughter's feigned horror as her father hit every "yiddy, biddy... and deedle, deedle, dum," not to mention the loud imitations of chickens and hens "squawking just as noisily as they can."

The part that seemed to hit my father the most was when Tevye was singing about what he would do for his wife, Golde. I have no intention of romanticizing a marriage that lasted over forty years and certainly had some ups and downs. Really, since my own marriage only hit the eleven year mark because the divorce papers weren't signed yet, I cannot make much comment at all. But I do think that my father died with the knowledge that at least in the currency of family, he died a wealthy man.

My father has two daughters and a wife. All of them have a roof over their head and have had opportunities to do things his parents would not have even thought to dream of doing. His grandson speaks of his Zayde almost every day and is enjoyed by his Gram on a non-stop basis. His other grandson held onto his finger before he died and seemed to pass on some inner knowledge of the place his grandfather was soon to go.

I believe my Dad died in peace knowing that in fact he was a very rich man.


Reformed Catholic said...

Sounds like a fitting eulogy to a very beloved father.

Sincerest condolences on your loss.

Jane Ellen+ said...

I'm sorry you've had to say goodbye, and grateful you have such loving (and funny!) memories to comfort you.

Thank you for sharing them.

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Jules said...

What a lucky, rich family.

(formerly CH)

Lomagirl said...

I'm sorry your father died, but I'm glad that you knew and appreciated him. Blessings.

Mary Beth said...

Thanks be to God.